Why the hell would I write this blog?

Why did I create this blog?

In the middle of August 2012, my husband and I found out that he has cancer... incurable, inoperable pancreatic cancer & my life has been a sad fog of hospital stays, doctor appointments and fear of what will I do without my best friend. I've decided to create a blog about my experience with the sadness I feel, to have a place to put my feelings, since I cannot afford a shrink and keeping it stuffed inside seems to be making me feel like I'm going to explode.

This is a blog devoted to trying to survive the loss of my husband, and best friend

I don't know why I'm doing it, I'm such a private person - and a big believer in being careful of the TMI, but perhaps I need an overflow valve. So there you have it.

Monday, March 17, 2014

It's the little things

I was complaining about the snow today and while I was cleaning the car of the white stuff I noticed it was wet heavy snow - the kind that makes a good snowman. That made me think about how much Paul loved the snow. He would open the curtains and watch the snow transform the landscape into something pristine, white and beautiful. He would be concerned about the birds and put birdseed on the deck for them. He liked taking walks in the snow,  he even liked to shovel the snow. He loved all the seasons. He'd be all excited the first warm day of the year and we could open all the windows. He loved watching storms coming in the summer. He'd turn off all the lights so he could better see the lighting in the distance. Even during a hurricane, he'd be at the window, watching the trees whipping around. He loved sunny days when he could ride his lawn mower, then kick back in the hammock. He loved how the trees changed in the fall and we'd take drives down skyline drive. I miss that & I miss him. I've got to try to make myself enjoy things again, the little things.

2 comments:

Dee said...

I came across this blog by accident and now find myself with tears in my eyes. I wish I could help you with your pain. I can't imagine what life would be like without my husband. I am so lucky that he recovered from his cancer.
One year is nothing when you have lost someone. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve as much as you need to.
Hugs!

Justine said...

Thank you Dee, I very much appreciate that. I have kind friends, and they help me. I am glad your husband recovered, and I wish you a long time together. I know when some people suffer a loss, they resent other people's happiness or good fortune. It's the exact opposite for me because it gives me hope.
Take care :)